Some days you read things on the internet that knock you for six, well this morning was one of those days. Today i discovered that a blogger, a fellow mummy who i have followed for a while has been telling the ultimate lie. About 6 months ago this blogger made declared to the world of instagram that she was dying. She had an un-treatable breast cancer, which had spread to her lungs and her time was limited. The world of instagram responded, we showed messages of support, donated money, shared tears for her plight, offered gifts and time for her to tick one more thing off her bucket list that so many people create when their time on earth is limited.
Sounds like an awful situation right? The problem was, this blogger was not being consumed by cancer as her posts on instagram suggested, she was being eaten up by a massive lie.
Asha Pinder of the blog ‘Raising Teddy Yates’ (i’m not even going to link to her) lied, she never had cancer and i am angry.
I am angry i supported her.
I am angry that i followed her on social media.
I am angry that i checked in on her when things went quiet, constantly hoping that things were going her way.
I am angry that i often thought about her, what she must be going through. A mum in her 20’s, fighting an awful disease, leaving a young son behind. She even wrote letters to leave him, it’s sickening.
I am angry that she lied, that she accepted gifts, flaunted it all on the internet, letting us get caught up in this spell of lies and i have to ask myself why?
Has things gone so far that people have to lie about having cancer to get noticed, liked or followed on social media? This girl went to the extreme of shaving her head! I can only assume that Asha has real mental issues and i hope she seeks the help she needs.
I feel like Asha has made a mockery of all those fighting this evil disease, all those that have lost or losing a loved one to this awful disease and all us supportive Mum’s who live in fear that what was her ‘reality’ could be our fate one day.
I hope she explains herself, that she returns any gifts/money she received or donates it to a cancer charity.
Today i lost a bit of faith in the internet. I am not stupid, i know social media is a facade and not a true reflection of real life, but i feel like a sucker who got truly sucked into this one.
One good thing to come out of this is this young mum doesn’t actually have cancer, that a little boy is not going to lose his mum, i have to seek comfort in that. She is going to need to learn to sleep at night. I think that is punishment enough.